Just curious, Jill. What role does anger - felt, unfelt, kind of felt - play in your day-to-day life? I'm finding reservoirs of almost blinding anger beneath all my other stuff. I haven't pin-pointed the precise whys just yet, but the anger is fierce.Read More...

Hi Jill, I too have experienced Christs love and grace in my life. The T that I see is of a different belief system, but it works for me. This website has much to say on finding a good attuned therapist- check it out. My T has all of the right stuff to do the job, and who knows I may- (Through the love of Christ) be of some benefit to him. If you are new in your faith- you may want to find someone who reflects that faith, though. I wish you Gods blessings in your search.Read More...

smiley, it will pass honestly it will. Keep yourself grounded as best you can ... having 50 people for a BBQ would stress me out too, but will no doubt keep you busy in preparation! Shall we all say a little prayer for sun over smiley's house this weekend? starfishRead More...

Welcome Agent...it's nice to meet you! Looking forward to seeing your posts! I've been reading this thread, but have nothing to add, really..I lie down after sessions and think, try to sleep a bit since I meet my T too early in the morning...sometimes I write important things down if I can remember the session. BBRead More...

I like that saying, too, Amazon. I also like: "The past isn't dead, it's not even past." - William Faulkner ...and... "We may be through with the past, but the past ain't through with us." - Bergen Evans echo, you're most welcome. I'm glad people are finding it interesting.Read More...

LL, I have missed you around here too. I so admire your courage and tenacity in your pursuit of the healing that you deserve. I hope that you can find some light in the darkness that you are feeling. (((((LL)))))) We are here for you when you are ready.Read More...

Hi SG, I just had to chime in to say that I can understand you and your DH perfectly. I so badly wish my DH would do couples therapy with me. He and I would be exactly the same as you and yours. We are both avoidant and our marriage sounds like yours. It's sad and very empty to live in that kind of a marriage. My T told us to talk for 20 minutes a night and we struggle trying to do that. It usually takes us about 10 minutes to accomplish the template she gave us, so I can't imagine trying to...Read More...

I have told two friends. One helps me out and the other refuses even though I offered to reciprocate ("it's just too complicated; I'd have to get dressed"). It's weird though, yk? I think they think I must be really crazy. If I mention anything about marriage problems, people seem to disappear into thin air, as if that problem is contagious.Read More...

Yes jones- and conquer them wearing heels. thanks all- for the B'day wishesRead More...

Wish I could answer you question MH, but I'm more muddled on this one that Monte! I am really struggling because I'm wondering the same things. I have wants that I think are needs, but then I think they're just wants again, and I go back and forth wondering what they really are. I want my T to understand me, and I also think that's a need for me to progress in therapy. But does SHE think it's a need, or only something I want. Does she think it's my husband that needs to understand me, not...Read More...

And about the transference with the female T, I think it is happening a little bit because I had a hard time when she was on vacation for a few weeks and it made it where I couldnt see her for a month and then time I went to the appointment and she wasnt there cause she had a medical emergency I wanted to cry on the way home cause I was so upset. Its nothing sexual at all but I think there is that attachment there at least a little bit that will probably get stronger. I talked to her on the...Read More...

Debbye, I'm glad that your T seems to be on your side with this. I completely agree with what he said. Personally, I wouldn't sign a waiver to let them talk. It sounds like your teacher is the one with the problem. I'm sorry this has been so upsetting for you.Read More...

Hi UV, Just want to say that procrastination, sluggishness, slowness are all problems for me that I have gained some significant ground on over the last year of steady psychodynamic work. They are not 'gone' as problems for me, and I haven't made progress in every area with this, but actually when I look back as I am at the moment (doing some self-evaluation as my t is leaving) I feel a LOT less stuck in many areas and take action a lot more speedily. I'm not sure how close our situations...Read More...

It's so tough knowing that, isn't it? But at least you do know it, because until I finally digested that thought, I was totally content. Or, content in knowing that I have a few screws loose and I keep using the wrong screw driver to put them into place. I so hope that you get something positive out of your session with your ex-T. At the very least, I hope you can get some direction. I have a session with my T on Friday, so I will bring up group therapy then - I'm a little afraid to talk...Read More...

Hi there again Ultraviolet. I hope your next session is soon. Let us know how it goes? :hug: LamplighterRead More...

Thanks, Monte! I appreciate it. You explained it perfectly.Read More...

Seablue, Are you kidding? I think it calls for cartwheels! That takes so much courage to put yourself out there when the shame monster hits and you just want to run away. Believe me, I know! I'm doing a bit better, thanks so much for asking. My T will probably get an ear full when I see her on Wednesday. I have a lot to get off my chest, and I've been a lot more emotional lately than usual so I know I need to get it out because my body is telling me so. I don't even want to answer the phone...Read More...

Hi Caeti nice to see you back here! I’m sorry you’ve been in hospital - that sounds like things got really bad for you? I hope you’re feeling more able to cope with things now? I’m not familiar with the positive feelings you’re talking about in relation to a T - maybe others on here who have similar experience are better able to relate to what you are explaining. My immediate thought on your question about ‘coming clean’ with T and explain about a relationship of which he knew nothing is...Read More...

Oh Monte - your words really brought the tears up that is such a powerful image you painted. Rest and peace YES! I so hope you can get over those walls you talk about and find in your T that other who just ‘knows’. It sounds like you already know he can be that for you - it also sounds like you’re getting to the stage where you will be able to breach your own walls. Big hugs to you Monte. And STRM that’s some brave thing of you to do - to accept the presence and comfort of your T in such...Read More...

Thank you, dragonfly and scaredtoriskmyself.Read More...

Thanks Dragonfly x Your idea of the scrap book is great and i do think i need something to focuss on coz at the moment it feels such a long time until i see her again. Maybe i will try and write Lots of hugs ((((((((dragonfly))))))) to you x Agent H63Read More...

This is a very interesting discussion. I think that what makes therapy (good therapy, that is) so unique is exactly what Russ said - that everything in therapy just is. It's something that I constantly have to remind myself of. Ah, fluffy bullshit. I'm very familiar with it. I was very aware of the fluff pouring out of my mouth at various points in my last session, and it really is hard to stop. I think it may have seemed like I was countering anything my T said with a ridiculous excuse. I...Read More...