Skip to main content

The PsychCafe
Share, connect, and learn.

All Topics

Find your music

Forum: Fun Sites
Thanks for sharing this link, Sala. My husband showed it to me before but it was just as funny the second time. I especially love the little leg shake! Very cute SGRead More...

Staying strong

halo
Hi Halo, Mrs. P said it beautifully so I'd like to second what she said. You are really hanging in there and I'm so glad you are starting to feel better. Keep up the good work, and keep posting! Hugs, SGRead More...
I feel that way and have been feeling that way even more since I got mad at my psychiatrist last week. I am scared to death of loosing the love I have for him and what will happen when it does change and how I will feel at that time. Right now because I am so consumed with the love I have for him I cant imagine ever feeling anything different. And when that love is taken away I will feel empty and lost because I wont know how to feel anymore. I havent been honest with my psychiatrist about...Read More...

Can't quite figure my P out

Thanks, Summer. I know you know how this feels and I always appreciate your support and encouragement. What is so frustrating about these emotional down-swings is that I do realize, on an intellectual level, that the abrupt ending was due to his weaknesses. All I have to do is look at all the great responses here, and the way my new T is doing things, and compare them to my journal of sessions with my former T. Unlike your T, he was good about not letting us chat for too long. Which was...Read More...
Page

I Want To Leave

True North
Hi everyone... I just wanted to post a further update to my story. But first I want to thank everyone for their suggestions an support. And HB... I could never be angry with you! As I mentioned on Monday night I got an email from my T that I didn't answer but I did call him on Wednesday morning and ask for a half session. I hate when I'm upset with him and feel that he is upset with me too. I'm not one to let it sit and so I called and he scheduled me for that afternoon. We calmly sat and...Read More...
Hi True North, I just saw your thread and wanted to add a few words about anxiety in therapy. I was sorry to hear your therapist was putting so much pressure on you. I have never found the need to suggest to clients that they go on meds for anxiety. A number of my clients come to see me on meds already and that's fine but I just couldn't imagine - with the tools we have now - that there'd be a need for meds for anxiety (Although - I might add - there could always be a first time). Of course,...Read More...

Part-erotic transference

amazon
Hi Amazon. Well done! You are a much stronger person than I am. From what you've said you've had an inkling about those feelings for a while. I don't know how strong they are in comparison to mine but even though I went back to my ex-T in order to bring some closure on such feelings, I just couldn't spell it out. I was too hard. I love(d) him too much, I felt too embarrassed to tell him my "silly, imaginary" feelings. I just didn't and still don't think they're realistic and yet it still...Read More...

"You guys are both F***ed up"

Hi herewego I also do read your posts. I don't reply because I'm afraid that I may say something stupid and I see that you do feel a lot of pain and anger towards that guy. Besides, I don't know what went on. You can vent here as much as you want. I do it too. However I don't think my venting here about how much I love my therapist is any constructive. But I know in the past I needed something like that website a lot more....Read More...

This really Helped My Family

Hi sarah what a small world. I wonder if we had a same counsellor. I see you in here, and my counsellor gave me the other web site address and I saw you there too. Or you could be another Sarah brown. Are you still going to e-expert site? I didn't post there much because I thought my counsellor was trying to mess up my head. I know, I know I am pretty obssesed with him and paranoid and distorted... well, you don't know me but I thought you were the same Sarah brown from e-expert. never mind~ :PRead More...

Need a good talking to

halo
Thanks Mrs P, your kind words mean so much to me. I have made a decision and I am not going back. This is so difficult for me. I am going to text him to cancel when I have coffee with my close friend who is a counsellor on Tues. I see my dr twice a week and my friend once a week. I know I am very blessed to have such fantastic support from my dr and friends and from this forum. Sadly I am in a very low place at the moment and I am very focused on just getting through the next few weeks.Read More...

Deleted

pandora
Hi HB, You mentioned on another thread that your big move is in progress, or close to it. I hope everything goes smoothly and quickly for you and that you feel peaceful and settled in your new digs. I'll be thinking about you. Peace, SGRead More...
Hi curious, That is so cool that your T made a "pact" with you. And for what it's worth, I do not think it is stupid to say "I miss you and need to hear your voice." AG has posted about calling her T numerous times for reassurance much like this. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Whether you call or not, the most important thing to do is talk to your T about it when she gets back. Be gentle with yourself, okay? SGRead More...
Hello everyone, I just wanted to post here to say "thank you" to everyone for the condolences on my Grama. This year has been a hard one for deaths in the family - first my FIL in May, then my Grampa in June, and now my Grama (his wife, not a different Grama). And my Grama on my dad's side and my Grampa's sister are not in good health, either. A whole generation seems to be disappearing in a short amount of time, and it is sad, and disorienting. So thank you for thinking of me. SGRead More...

my struggle

Hi Incognito...and others too. I just want to say that I'm thinking about you and how hard that last session must've been. I can empathise with the need for reassurance constantly and the feelings of neediness. I went through a very similar thing with my ex-T.I avoided sending him emails as much as I could....I like very very clear boundaries as I can read into everything, no matter how small. I preferred not to test the boundaries because I knew I would keep pushing them. And my T was very...Read More...

too personal

Hey I know... If he just told me his mom passed away... He didn't have to tell me that his mom killed herself. That really traumatized me and triggered me big time. I already have a good P. I've known her for 6 years. The thing is...I don't really want to bring this topics to her. I guess I am not really ready to... I don't know, I guess I am still greiving. I've noticed that when I am going through pains, I keep them inside me for a long time, try to ignore it or thinking that it will go...Read More...

Have you ever sued your Therapist?

Hi there I am getting all the help that I need. People have been telling me that just think of this experience as dealt with Fucked up. I am not sure if it's because I idealized him too much, I strongly believe that he could have done more than he did with me. He was definitely sound boarding a lot with me. I think he really enjoyed how I as reacting, what I would say or do...I was very interesting subject for him. Sometimes I wonder what if he was already professional counsellor and I was...Read More...

Shrinks on social networking sites

This is an interesting point to keep in mind. Although the intensity of the change T's bring about, the fact that it's an "inside" job that takes quite a bit longer than the "outside" job of a hairdresser, makes it understandably more complex. And if there's attachment issues then it gets even harder for the patient to keep things in perspective. In fact, I don't think it's possible, at times, for the patient to keep things in perspective at all. Which is why it is so important for T's to...Read More...

`

Thanks for this. I will reread it whenever I feel the guiltmonster creeping up on me. (I've been feeling guilty about sharing this experience online, too. Like I'm badmouthing someone or sharing gossip...)[/QUOTE] Hey echo How are you doing with your T? I have been reading everything around here and I was just curious, any update??? I love gossipRead More...
Actually I just remembered a few things about this topic. I didn't just idealize my counsellor. Whatever he told me, said to me, I did it. I was so busy impressing him and I was burning out. If he told me to die in front of him, I would have done it. If he told me to be his dog, I would have done that too. When he mentioned to me about having my own space so I can work, I almost bought the house. I was like his puppet. I think I enjoyed it cuz I was so bored being a housewife. pathetic,...Read More...

Trusting your therapist

My advice to you... always trust your instinct. If you feel something is fishy, then probably something's going on. My counsellor's intention was to treat me as a test subject becuase he was doing his practicum and writing thesis at the same time. I was so naive... Stop wondering about what your T is thinking or will react. If you don't feel right with your T, just ditch him. There are plenty of T's who are professional and actually can help you.Read More...

Stormy Piano Player

Forum: Fun Sites
Hello guys I do get very emotional watching certain movies I've stopped watching horror movies + all the sad sad movies but after I've had horrible experince with my counsellor, I started to watch most most scary and disgusting movies. The experience with my counsellor is so truamatic for me so now I am ok with any movies. funny isn't it?Read More...
my answer is NO My counsellor told me that I have natural talent in that field so I was pursing then he realized that I was really serious then he discouraged me saying " you are too emotional" I wanted to say same thing to him but I didn't want to disrespect. How would patient know that if we are dealing with psycho counsellors??? So creepy...Read More...
Post
×
×
×
×
×