Jo, That sounds nice. To all: Thanks for your concern. My fever finally broke last night! Yay! I'm still exhausted and mending. I was getting a little concerned there, as I was having urges to oink and roll in the mud. I thought I might grow a curly tail and a snout. catgirl (NOT piggirl)Read More...

Wow! What a beautiful way of looking at this. I have passed these amazing words on to the mother. Thanks so much!Read More...

not a therapist, but from my angle, maybe you have already had that kind of sexual experience, and maybe you don't consciously remember it? I agree that a licensed therapist who has experience with these sorts of issues would be the best place to go. Good luck and don't beat yourself up.Read More...

Hi Sorry for taking so long to get back, I was away on a clothes spending spree. Losing weight has it's perks where the wardrobe is concerned! Thanks for your comments I've been trying to find something on the net about what someone who wasn't nurtured would look/act like (profile), but haven't had much luck. I hate it when she (P) says things and I don't ask about them right away. I tend to obsess about them until my next appointment. " Maybe your ability to nurture all of those people when...Read More...

CT - I hope your trip goes OK. I know what you mean about being out of your comfort zone and your routine. Hang in there, you will be back before you know it, and then the very next day, you will be in your T's office. I'll be waiting to hear how your vacation goes. OWRead More...

Hi catgirl, Sorry i didn't reply, i didn't see this message! I actually realised i wasn't dependant on my T because I got quite angry at her for something she did (I felt she broke my confidence a little) and did not have any contact for a few weeks. During that time i was able to lean on my friends for support, and although i missed my T, i realised the dependence was not unhealthy and that made me more comfortable with our entire relationship, and with the therapy process. Someone also...Read More...

Tina, Hear, hear! cargirlRead More...

BTW, if it feels discouraging, it's probably not the right person for you.Read More...

Which, by the way, might be the most difficult and painful thing you've ever done. Sometimes therapists don't mention this detail. So true, especially the "the ridiculousness of the VAGUE" part. I think my initial response was, "ok, that sounds kind of hard...how long does this generally take?" I would echo what CT says, especially the leak analogy. That's it in a nutshell. Russ RussRead More...

Thanks HollyBaby and QueenGrey your comments were helpful. H- I will tell him how I feel about our sessions next time. When I started with him, he kept pushing me to move on - but I wasnt ready to do that until I sensed he really understood the depth of the problem and who I am . Now we've delved so much into the past, I really do want the guidance to move on. Q- Your comment about finding the authenticity rather than finding one specific answer is helpful - I know I went in thinking (and I...Read More...

How many psychologists does it take to screw in a light bulb? Just one, but the light bulb must really want to change. Once I had multiple personalities, but now we are feeling well. I don't suffer from insanity, I enjoy every minute. I used to be indecisive. Now I'm not sure. The best thing about being schizophrenic is that I'm never alone. Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean people aren't out to get you! Hypochondria is the only illness that I don't have.Read More...

Summer and QG, I started antidepressants in the beginning of March, and have been pleased with the results, and will continue with them for a while. About the time my ADs kicked in, a friend of mine started taking enzymes for anxiety. We both started having very similar results-hers were immediate, mine had taken 1-4 weeks to take effect. She feels like they have given her major relief from her anxiety, and allowed her to continue looking at and working on her issues with her therapist. I'm...Read More...

Hi summer! I was going to say good evening to you but I am not sure where you hail from. Could be day time where you are. Yeah smell is a VERY personal thing. I read once that smell is our most ingrained memory because our olfactory system or whatever you call it is so close to our brains. I guess it's right up in the middle of our brains. My old old T, the one who I saw for over a decade and left last year used to tell me I smelled good too because of some cologne I used to wear. I liked...Read More...

Hi...and welcome salcostello..... I guess I am a bit confused about what you are asking. And would like to encourage you to elaborate a bit more on what you are seeking to confirm. It seems like you are looking for the origin of the usage of "I" statements...is that correct? That is...I statements vs. You statements....the assertive vs. the aggressive type of statement? If you are looking for the origin...I personally cannot help you there. I don't think it is attributed to any one...Read More...

Totally, CT! I would assume that what you are saying is that you respect yourself, your needs, and your sadness. Good for you!Read More...

“This is what is hardest: to close the open hand because one loves.” ~ Friedrich Nietzsche ~Read More...

I'd like to see some numbers. How many people go through this intense transference in therapy? Also, how have these people succeeded in resolving it. I always think, well it will resolve when I'm done with therapy. But then I fear that if it doesn't get resolved correctly, I'll attach onto someone else in an unhealthy way again. Does anyone know where to get numbers on this? I asked my T how often she deals with this, she waited a long time. I finally said, "It was a serious question." She...Read More...

thanks to everyone for the warm welcome! Hope to talk to you all moreRead More...

Thank you all. I aprriciate your support. My T has been a T for thirty plus years and has around seven years to retirement. I do not mean to be rude, but I think she is burned out and should start thinking about retirment. She is very set in her ways and does not like to bend. She mentions boundaries a lot. I have trouble setting boundaries but I do not cross other peoples boundaries. I have a past with married women. I have never persued them or crossed that boundary. They wanted to go out...Read More...

Wisdom, I had it just a year ago this month. I did not have radiation thanks to changing guidelines! I am in the process of doing follow-up. Dr. X says I am cured but I don't agree. It makes me nervous when he says that. SGRead More...

Hi IHTS... Thanks for noticing me.....*she said in her best Eeyore voice* LOL...... I haven't yet said hello to you...but I have been reading. I'm trying to catch up on posting. I'm glad you decided to join up here...your posts have been most interesting. In regard to your question...I have to say...NO...I do not think people are as loyal and trustworthy as our dogs are. I think that dogs are a different type of attachment.....often a more profound attachment. It is more difficult, for some...Read More...

Hi everyone.....thanks for all of your replies. They are really informative...I haven't discussed my personal feeling of anger with many others or related it to my therapy so this is great. It is awful though, that you all have to deal with this stuff too. I went to my appt yesterday after work and it was really...stupid. I tried to keep her at bay, was thinking maybe she doesn't know what she's doing and what if she can't handle me and all I bring to this? All the time there, I was...Read More...

I sent a forward to your e-mail I hope you got it this time. Have a good day.Read More...

Jo....and Wiz....I'm sorry both of you have had to go through all of this....especially the stress of it all. I think the stress is worse than any of the procedures. I too know what it is like. I have to do an endometrial Bx every time I have a pap. It's not fun...and I often put it off for as long as I can. My Dr. hates that. My breasts are not really an issue, since I had a reduction done 10 years ago and don't really have much breast tissue left. My mother had breast cancer...but is in...Read More...

CT -- I think its possible to believe that religion is not necessarily a bad thing. I honestly think that therapy is a form of spirituality (the 20th-21st century kind). Many people at the many churches I've attended are excellent people and seem very well-adjusted and content, so kudos to them! For me, walking into a church feels like walking into a bubble. My childhood was a study of dividing the world into good guys and bad guys, with no one in between. If I didn't behave like a good...Read More...