cool! i hope this can work out for the two of you. what's to lose?Read More...

LOL! that is awesome! we should coordinate a little cyber ice cream social here at the cafe!! we can all dine and chat at the same time!Read More...

Hello Muff, it's friend. Did you get my message about Bill?Read More...

I'm ever so glad you spoke up Draggers. I was told others had fantasies like mine, but I thought only T's patients did. That anger can become so intense that fantasy is the only way of venting it ie, fantasy with emotion. It's a safe way of venting anger/rage.Read More...

YES!Read More...

((Muff)) Thinking of you in this painful time.Read More...

BLT! That was awesome to read T.Read More...

Hi Mayo, yes, that's what I understood, too. Unfortunately, I'm nowhere near that yet. With T having left this week, I've been getting triggered no matter where I am or what I'm doing. The body sensations feel overwhelming. Li'l one feels utterly terrified and desperate that ALL key people in her life (few as they may be) are going to leave and never come back. The adult me has been craving numbness this week by way of alcohol. I sometimes wonder why I started down this healing path,...Read More...

((((muff)))) I cannot imagine the sadness you feel, but the sadness I feel for you is immense. Tears rolling down my cheeks, from half a world away RabbitEarsRead More...

Dear Muff, Heart is so heavy for you. I am so very sorry you are going thru this. Just as CD has said, I too wish I could have a cuppa with you. Thinking of you.Read More...

TAS, I can definitely see how your T allowing contact outside of sessions and then taking it away is awful and must be bringing up tons of nightmares from your past. Most of us are in this condition partly due to the people we relied on to meet our needs being horribly inconsistent in meeting them. I don't know if you can get him to change the boundary back or not but this may be the opportunity to express all the rage and despair you feel because of this. Don't protect him. He can take it.Read More...

Got that RT. Thank you for posting it.Read More...

"i held the rage in and the thought ran through my mind how depression is anger turned inward. and it explained everything perfectly." You have learnt one of the most important things about therapy CD. Congrat's!Read More...

well i will definitely be checking those videos out, cat! pets really are inspiratonal. such strength of character they have. i bet so much of that is being uninhibited by what others say or think. the human brain really is both a blessing and a curse. let us all enjoy the innocence and honestly of our pets.Read More...

It made me uncomfortable too.Read More...

dear RabbitEars quote: take care of your wants and needs, RT. if you derive pleasure from it, it's worth it. also, it seems to me there has never been a lack of contributions on your morning peeps threads. this place is kind of like therapy this way ... leaves you lots of room to explore things about yourself (you just have to get your head to allow it). be easy on yourself and don't worry so much what others think (easier said than done, i know). take heed.Read More...

believe it or not, nor can iRead More...

. I shall gather forces against her AG, and let T in on her way of thinking. He knows how naughty brain can be. Well, I'm off to see the wizard, the wonderful...........Oh spit!Read More...

I found it helpful. I think the steps to stopping could be a lot more detailed with examples! On the illness thing - maybe they mean consistently struggling instead of getting help? I have a friend who constantly struggles with her joints but just keeps complaining..not getting any help. I've done a lot of work with a good therapist for a few years and it sure helps. We are currently working through how to stop the repetition compulsion and it's a process for sure. Being really aware of...Read More...

Re: Closure with old T?Read More...

I wonder if our love for T depends on what stage we were wounded. Mine was from the moment of conception so I'm suck at a very early level. I'm desperate for T to be the 'good breast'. I want to take her into my mouth for oral satisfaction.Read More...

I've been in therapy 10yrs and still working on this issue. We've put more words to the preverbal stuff which then helps with the processing of these feelings. But it's difficult and definitely a long road to trudgeRead More...

Progress!Read More...

Cheering for you, Kid. Hang in there and hang out here...Read More...

that is actually a very good description of what therapy feels like to me. bravo!Read More...