Oh thank you so much CTL. Thank youRead More...

SomeDays I wish I could see it as positively as you. I know it's not the Therapists doing...but I still am pissed off over the the fact I have to go... Thank you T.Read More...

(((AG))) you've done what you can as far as reaching out, and perhaps even went over-and-above given the circumstances. i imagine none of it was easy, but you did it anyway. so kuddos to you! i am so sorry that she has been unresponsive. that must hurt alot (((AG))). she's your momma, and you're right ... you SHOULD be more more important to her than the way she's treating you. but as you know, that is her stuff. she's never dealt with it and so you suffer the brunt of it and it feels like...Read More...

Searching on love, trying to learn why I feel so the way I do, and this stood out to me. Makes a lot of sense, I just hadn't thought about it this way before. Thanks for this, and thanks for this post....Read More...

Anon that was great but I was smiling and thinking.... just wait until they are mutant, ninja TEENAGERS. Isn't parenting fun? Hugs to you (and yes YOU are doing a great job) TNRead More...

Cat, I've never discussed the idea that I would leave messages just because I want to. I usually call because I want to talk to him. I email thoughts when I just want to get them out of my head. I think my T is trying to get me to talk about my fear of his judgement while I'm in the session instead of leaving the session and emailing or calling out of fear. I haven't tried to discuss what being cared for feels like. Monte, it is nice to hear from you and I'm so sorry that my feelings...Read More...

I like the idea of an enclave. It sounds enclosed, safe and protected. But the title just doesn't jive. How about the situation nation? Or the situation territory? I really like the situation nation but .... the word nation connotes something a little different than a small protected space. I guess it could be a large protected space. Okay, obviously, I'm avoiding real life again.Read More...

I find this to be true, which is I why I am going into the caring profession. A total change of direction after losing my job.Read More...

((((CAT))) Oh yeah, you are such an old hag. Like a dried up prune. I'm going to tell you what my T says to me when I make similar statements: never say never.Read More...

(((erica))) I have a friend from another forum who is out your way, so I got the blow-by-blow from someone in person. Also sending lots of prayers. West Coast, USA, here.Read More...

((((TURTLE)))) The last time my T went away he told me that I could call any of the therapists he shares his suite with. I don't know any of them but see them in the waiting room. I was triggered by T in our last session before his vacation and there was no way I could go to any one of those therapists and talk about my feelings for my T. If you are not comfortable doing DBT with the consultation group, tell T you will find another DBT group. Just my opinion.Read More...

Thank you for understanding, Poppet. TN, I can see why you have to work so hard to get over what was done to you. I am disgusted at the profession for what oT did to you. He is such a jerk! At least my oT is able to offer a polite greeting. The first time I ran into her was about six months after she terminated me and she said hello, but I quickly told her not to talk to me! At the time, I felt proud for sticking up for myself but it didn't take long to regret that decision. When I ran into...Read More...

I am relieved to know I am not the only one this happens to. I will bring it up at our next session but I realize this is a pattern of mine. I let other people run over me with their agenda's. I minimize the importance of what I have to say. I had wanted to talk about a breakthrough I had with a younger part and when T ignored her I got angry. If what she has to say isn't important then how she feels is even less important! I was mad at T but I was also mad at the the little girl for feeling...Read More...

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((kash)) don't be silly your support is a meaningful and wonderful offer in itself. ((AG)) Brief update on me. For anyone who read over in the coffee chat thread, I had a major meltdown on Friday because my mother in law cancelled her babysitting commitment for Monday morning with me which means I'm missing an important class. I can live with missing the class but I lost the plot over feeling soooooooooo let down and unimportant and that my needs were not being considered at all. I was so...Read More...

((poppet)) ((scars)) ((Liese)) Thanks for your kindness and understanding Poppet - I think you're spot on there that it's foolish to rely on one source of childcare. I need to make an effort to have different babysitting options available. I am waiting for my son to drop his morning nap and move to having one big sleep during the afternoon so I can leave him elsewhere in the morning if need be. Thanks Liese, I'm sorry your mom hasn't been an involved grandma. She has missed out on a...Read More...

Hi! I'm Rosalind Robertson. I wrote the 21 Tips to keep your Shit together when you're depressed... I see it's gone viral, which is amazing. Since this is a psych community, if anyone wants the downloadable links, just fire me off an email - rosalind@rosalindrobertson.com - they're under a common copyright protection so they can be shared. So funny it was found on an erotica site, but my blog is hosted by tumblr.... www.diycouturier.com - anyhow. Let me know if you've got any questions.Read More...

RT, i can relate to all of that stuff you wrote about. right now i'm wondering if this is stuff you've shared with your T? how did she react? i think alot of my problem is that i don't know how to articulate my feelings and experiences. i have a really hard time with that. that and showing up with the expectation that your everyday life is supposed to just suspend while you go away for an hour and spill your guts to somebody and then you have to go back out into the wild and function. that's...Read More...

Great advice Liese. Yes it reminded me of me.... It also reminded me of the contact changing over time. Me too - used to go weekly and then as the relationship developed as the healthy dependency increased - I needed more and more. each time it was a negotiation process / rupture but we worked it out together. I think you have to fully commit for six months and there is no talk or thinking of termination within that time and really make a go of the relationship. SDRead More...

Hey Harbour... how are you doing? You haven't been around and I was just checking in on you. TNRead More...

(((scars))) whatever you're experiencing or thinking now, i'm thinking about you and wish you the best on your life journey. keep us posted, cuz we careRead More...