hi! no idea what to say or why things are fraught since I'm out of the loop- but hi to all! :hugRead More...

Ha ha - my avatar has three bits of fruit - three times the trouble. My T would probably agree....... TAS - I think the bottom line is - to do the type of work you need to do in therapy - you HAVE to attach. I don't know how to get to the other side without attaching. IF all your energy is going against it and resisting - then in the end it will take much longer and be more painful. I think. Somedays - 3 fruits.Read More...

Hi their Frog, how has the weekend been insofar. Cant think off much to say here as my own experience with therapy may not tally with others. The only thing I can say is look at Dr's/Shrinks/Counsellor in the same way as we might look and talk to ordinary people. In other words they are no different than the rest off us. A university education and a title on the door does not mean they have super powers to deal with everthing. In short give them time to help you out with any new revelation...Read More...

Outside, me too!!! I was just going to make a post about the hurricane.Read More...

I've been going for 17 months, except for two while my T was hospitalized.... Started going bc of self-destructive behaviors mainly evident in binge-eating, but some other things as well. Also have what T described as PTSD that is manifest in arachniphobia. (being "surprised" by a spider, esp a dark one, triggers anxiety and brings back certain memories.) Have learned and am still learning about those things and so much more... Hugs to all, StarryRead More...

Anon, well done for getting through that, it sounds really tough I am so glad that you have the support of your T to get through this but so sad that it is such an ordeal for you and others to have to go through starfishyRead More...

Thanks Liese!Read More...

Thanks for the reply TN. My T has never said he didn't like my projecting. My T is not chatty but he does self-disclose and I know a reasonable amount about his life. He is careful to not talk about how he feels about me unless I ask explicitly about something. If I say something like I know this is not necessarily true but I feel like you are frustrated with me or tired of me he often just sits there. When I've asked him later why he didn't respond to that statement he has said he didn't...Read More...

(((BLT))) No apologies needed. I have, myself, occasionally bit off more than I could chew in terms of revealing stuff about myself to others and I am grateful that this forum gives me the opportunity to retract when I am feeling unsafe, though I regret when it interferes with the flow of threads.Read More...

Hello TN, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with yet another crappy day at work. But good for your T for being there for you, at least that is some comfort in all the distress you are experiencing. I'm pitching in again because I see I've left a quote hanging in my previous post, and I know I wanted to talk about that too but obviously quoted and then forgot Comes of talking too much, evidently! This I can relate to very much. So much anger, rage even, at people in positions of power and...Read More...

Hi True North Thank you for your kind words... The Therapist said that he felt that my texting him was not helping me with impulsivity/or with self soothing. I understand to a degree but I was really struggling with attachment and it seems when I walk out the door...he does not exist. Now, I know that I can't fault him for that...my attachment issues are not his doing. I did ask him after the session if I could still touch base with him Tues and Thur...he did say yes...but I have tried to...Read More...

Here's another The Wild Site of Life" by BBC One is all known! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f-Kt_kuYVtU ChezzaRead More...

goes to show, you can't wait forever for elmo to show ... life's too short. on the other hand, indulging in chocolate-embelished cookies the way cookie monster does isn't exactly the answer, either. what's the f*cking answer???Read More...

Oh, Debbye, thanks for posting this. I LOVE Matthew Perry.Read More...

I thought it was a good article too, but unlike Liese reserve the right to compliment my daughter on her intelligence. Articles on overparenting confuse me sometimes. It seems the balance between appropriate protection/precaution and just overdoing it is socially and situationally constructed. I mean, life is always going to have risks, and there are going to be some risks that we choose to protect our kids from-- how do we really know when we are going overboard and doing them a disservice?Read More...

Hopeful, yeh I get that!!Read More...

I am assuming this 'stupid thing' is a form of coping mechanism. (If not, just ignore this post, then it is completely off topic). I am not always coping in the most healthy way. I haven't been able to tell the details as she is very vague when it comes to having people admitted to the hospital and I don't feel save sharing it with her. However, she knows that I have some coping mechanisms that are not considered 'good'. When we discussed the matter, she told me that she would be a bad T if...Read More...

(((Kashley and Monte))) thank youRead More...

Hi Monte... I have definitely done this. I use ideas and phrases I have learned from my T. A favorite is... just because it sounds scary does not mean it's dangerous. And... keep your head up. I don't really get annoyed when those words come out of my mouth. It makes me smile and then I feel closer to T and that is a good feeling. I'm sure your T has many wise phrases that you cannot help but incorporate. Hugs TNRead More...

TAS... I'm just catching up on things here. What a lovely post to read by you. I'm so glad you have felt helped here and supported in your therapy. I know I may have been tough on you at times (I learned that from my own T!) but it was because I believed you were working with a good T and that if you stuck with therapy you would be feeling better. Yeah, it can be really hard at times and things seem to move so slow it feels like you are standing still but things are slowly changing. Just...Read More...

Thanks for the responses and input, I keep typing out a response, but will respond later. Just wanted to say thanks.Read More...

Jones, That was great! Really picked up my mood.Read More...

Hey Liese, I think one of the things here is that a desk is perfectly balanced by itself, and is naturally fixed in one position. Human bodies are floppy and flexible, except when tensed, so we can move around. Without muscle tension, we do fall over (as in fainting or sudden death). If you think about how many tiny muscle movements are involved in keeping someone upright, and how fast the adjustments need to be made, you might get an idea of what the inner ear is helping with. One way of...Read More...

TAS, The same could be said for me. I know I'm withdrawn and not always emotionally present with my kids. If the remark was intended to make you feel like crap, then ??? what kind of therapy is that? If it was intended to perhaps motivate you, well, then, maybe I can forgive it but it was still a crappy thing to say. I'd feel awful if my T said something like that to me.Read More...

((( Fawn ))) Nice to see you back! And yeah, boots are great. I had a look at the link, that was only PAGE ONE!!!!!!! Love all the different boots, laughed to see Ugg boots there too, the old classic I used to wear those in the '70s. LLRead More...