Just wanted to thank you all for the responses and empathy/sympathy.... but... Aside from the bad stuff there were some bright spots. Didn't want you all to think it was a totally bleak time. Seeing my son enjoy himself thoroughly with family he hardly sees. Watching him adapt to a new language. Laughing as he tried to catch lizards (even though I hate them). He had a really great time and I'm glad. Aside from that... I bought 2 great pair of shoes and a purse. My dh bought me for my...Read More...

I cried while reading the article. It was very moving.Read More...

Hi guys, thank you! I talked to my T about this today. She suggested (because I said the content of what I'm writing is.. hard and I think it might be too much to process and walk in to so deeply without I don't know? warning her?) that if it's too personal to try writing it out as a story happening to someone else to provide some emotional distance. That didn't really sound appealing to me. So we ended up talking about if I can bring it in and try to highlight a little piece and get through...Read More...

R2G, thank you so much for your response. I honestly didn't know that there are things that could be wrong and that doctors will often not know what to look for. I AM meeting with an ED dietitian next week and I've already signed the agreement for my T and her to exchange information and treatment plans. I think the crux of the issue with T is that I need to ask him, yes or no, if therapy is a safe place to talk about the ED stuff. He wasn't saying that he would "fire" me for a time while I...Read More...

Sometimes, the fact that someone (my T) believes in me is the only reason I try. There is for sure nothing like knowing someone believes in you!Read More...

Thanks all! (((MMM))) When you put it that way, it does sound funny, but I know what you mean! I also pay attention to all the little nuances, my problem is I don't remember what T says, or what I say, as they pertain to me. Those nuggets somehow land differently in my brain, and I hold on to the longer? Dunno. (((SD))) It's nice that T emails you the notes from the session, that would be pretty cool! My T doesn't do recording, but I may have to bring it up again, cause I am holding on to so...Read More...

Hi AG, I'm not an expert at weight loss by any stretch of the imagination. And not that you've asked for my weight loss tips but I'm going to be presumptuous here and tell you what has been working for me as far as changing my habits are concerned. - I decided not to do any kind of program because I wanted to be able to eat "normal" food and to be able to assimilate my new habits into a "normal" lifestyle. - I had to admit that I love food. I love to eat. I needed to make things that tasted...Read More...

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I can't hug my T or my psyc. I am afraid I will not let go.Read More...

I loved Emily!!! I'm hoping we see her again one day. Don't want to ruin the show for anyone who hasn't caught up yet, but...SNIFF!! (you'll know what I mean!) StarryRead More...

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Thinking of you (((LG))) and hoping things are improving for you!Read More...

Omg - that was just beautiful. Thank you so much.Read More...

Awww (((draggers))) we don't think you're dumb at all after all you is still recovering from your bug attack from last week!! (((closed doors))) Thanks! I've never been called awesome before!! Oooh it don't half feel nice!!!!Read More...

and i think what you have "disclosed" is very insightful and helpful, to me. i can see where it would be TMI to others. it helps me to be more empathetic to the T ... i KNOW it's about me, but really it's about us learning/re-learning about relationships, and relationships are always 2-sided. just my thoughts. thanks for sharing!Read More...

((( jd ))) on a heart level i don't think T was being condescending or non-accepting of me, either. it's just that's what i expect to hear, so that's what i hear. i hear what you say about the "easily overwhelmed" comment. you prepare yourself for their response, and they come back with something even just a little bit askew from what you're expecting, and the world comes crashing down. this is one of the things that drives me mad about therapy. i hear what you're saying. and about your...Read More...

(((b2w))) Thanks for your response. It is helpful to know how vigilant you feel toward not only your own kids, but others. I find I have the same thing and mostly toward men as well, but due to some weird family thing, I will probably have a problem with women when Boo is entering puberty too. I feel sad that I am just instinctively less trusting toward men (who I don't know well personally) at church who interact with her innocently than women. But, at the same time, I understand why it is...Read More...

Hey xoxo, I loved reading that. Its so true and well written. Thanks for sharing! B2WRead More...

I read this article yesterday and this thread came to mind. I love what she says here - and need to hear each thing myself, even though I'm well over ten! 10 Things I Want My Daughter to Know Before She Turns 10Read More...

One more thing: I don't like the label of BPD, either. My T told me that they are traits. I like that. It made more sense than the label. Since it is sooo different and there are many variations of experiences I do agree that ONE definitive label isn't useful.Read More...

(((Navyme))) Thanks for posting this. It was interesting to read and I think it's awesome that you've had all these insights. I could see a lot of my own experience in what you wrote, especially here: Wow, I do this all the time. Especially with poor T. I compulsively ask her if she's mad at me, to try and touch base with the reality when I get like this. I'm impressed that she's as patient with it as she is.Read More...

Thanks Starry! I think this is a good place to put the warning. B2WRead More...

Hi Draggers! Oh, you are a brave one...and the responses you have gotten are so amazing, every one. I'm trying to get a bit back in, I thought I'd tell you my experience... So you know how it was with my old T....opf course, no touch, but...yes I wished for it. Now I see Cowboy T///and I shook his hand right away, on purpose, and I hugged him, whether he did like it or not, a couple of times, and then, I purposely asked for a hug a couple of times, and once, he even hugged me when I left...Read More...

I haven't seen T out and about but when we knew each other years ago and were doing therapy and working together - we were always careful and we trusted each other not to say anything about therapy when in another role. I asked T to come and look at my new house (we haven't moved in and it has no furniture in it). I had talked about it in therapy and it will come up again as I don't want to leave my current house. My T said she would love to and she came earlier and spent an hour with me at...Read More...

Hi Zwag, The people on this site are not counselors or therapists. There may be some who are, but the majority of the participants are IN therapy. Some have chosen to study further in that field and have some knowledge, some even have extensive knowledge related to psychology, but that is not what this site is about. This site is really about on-line support and being able to share our experiences related to therapy. Hope that helps. B2WRead More...