Becoming Attached is a good book about how/why attachment develops and what happens when it is interrupted. There are a bunch of books listed in a thread around here somewhere, but not for sure where it is right now.

yes, i looked for that thread. thanks strm. just poking in for a quick visit, as i am trying to 'de-therapy' for awhile. i gave myself one hour to 'hang out' here.

I hear ya Jill. Sometimes I wish I could de-therapy as well. I hope you have a good break and are able to regroup and feel better.

Hi Jill! You said you looked, but didn't say you found...so here is that link:

Books on therapy/psychology that have helped you

SG

thanks strummergirl, i am going there now, and STRM, yes, a break actually feels pretty good. i have been playing golf and tennis and just hanging it up for awhile. i am interviewing, slowly a few therapists, but won't start til after kids get in school. funny, i don't think i feel the deperation i have felt.

i think my sixth sense knew she was insincere. a stinky phoney with no compassion...fake. and smelly (ok, little five year old jill, can it with the body odor comments!!)