Shape,
Thought this thread might be of interest. I know a lot of us struggle with jealousy of other clients.

She sees other Cs

AG

I have a problem with it and i told T about it. I read out some stuff from the forum about generally how we all feel about it and explained how various problems were affecting me. T changed things for me. Now I am usually the first client of the day, so i dont have anyone else there. I don't pay on the day - my invoice is discretely given to me either by T or at reception and I don't have to stand there and pay while the next person walks in to MY T. T walks me straight to the external door and we dont hang around and chat - as she used to. I told her that all that made me do was dissociate and i wasnt listening to her anyway! And i would feel that she had died every time she went into her room with the next person and the door shut. That door shutting - put a knife through me. T never shuts the door until I have left.

So we made changes so I didn't have to go through all this pain. I just ignore that T sees other clients. I totally ignore it and treat my T as if I am the ONLY one..... . T and I have done a lot of "firsts" together - and I am waiting for T to say that she tried some of them out on another client. That will break my heart when she does it. I know it will happen one day.

Somedays

Snape - Sorry you are struggling w/ this sort of transference with your T.

I do not have erotic transference for either of my therapists but I do know what it's like to feel a little weird about other clients. Any of my Ts clients I see I imagine they are 'better' and 'more enjoyable' than I am. So I am jealous about the idealize relationship I assume everyone else has with my T. That's just recently, but in the past it was a great comfort to see/hear how my T would interact with others and it fostered a lot of trust. Again though the transference is not erotic (mine is mostly avoidant/dismissive) and I think that makes thing a lot more intense. I'm definitely jealous of my T's family but I do also know that my Ts in real everyday life being around them all the time they are probably just like anyone else.

Do you feel like your T might have relationships with other clients that are erotic, or just that there is any emotional connection at all?

Sorry I haven't responded to the comments on this thread. I didn't have the notifications turned on.
Attach. thank for the link. I will read the page.

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Originally posted by Attachment Girl:
Shape,
Thought this thread might be of interest. I know a lot of us struggle with jealousy of other clients.

She sees other Cs

AG

CAT, thanks for your comments. My jealousy is much less than in the past, but when I see a client leaving my T's office I still wonder if he is more interesting, or she likes him more than me, and I am just another client to her. She once told me she has a special place in her heart for me, I didn't want to believe her, but part of me very much wants to believe her. I thought she probably says that to all her clients. Now I believe she is telling me the truth... more than likely. My psyc. said I am territorial, like a cat I suppose, perhaps this is why I felt my T was MY T, mine, and I her only client. Me.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by catalyst:
Snape - Sorry you are struggling w/ this sort of transference with your T.

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