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divadivaMember
So just a thought I had...

Have any of y'all ever seen your Ts outside of therapy and totally avoided them? I don't usually see my T outside of her office on campus too much, maybe like 5 times all together last year and each time I avoided her like the plague. Granted, I not the same person I was last year at all, but it still feels weird to see or talk to her outside the office. On Friday I saw her at the grocery store and I completely went down the other aisle even though I needed stuff from the one that she was in. :P today I saw her in the gym after chapel which isn't unusual cos all faculty and staff are required to attend chapel on Mondays but this time she stayed mingling with her co workers and walked over to the area that my friends and I usually stay and talk and laugh but when I saw, I bolted careful not to let my friends see why. Why is that? It's so weird! I'm like uh Diva she's a human being, just go say hi what's the harm, I'm sure if she saw you she wouldn't avoid you...anyone else have similar experiences?
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beccabeccaMember
Diva, I have done that. Saw her at my gym, which also has a physical therapy clinic attached to it. Walked around the corner and saw her sitting in the waiting room. I turned around and left before she saw me. I really wanted to work out too but it freaked me. Then it happened again 6 months later. This time I said something really stupid to her and moved on quickly. We talked about it next session and she was pretty cool about it but I watch out for her every time I walk in the building.

It is kind of funny, it seems like we think about our T's so much but when we see them in their real life, it throws us a curve ball. Weird.
closeddoorscloseddoorsMember
i've never run into T outside of therapy, but other figures of authority, and yep i do just what you do ... avoid like the plague. weird. i know if i ran into T my reaction would be the same. i don't know why that is, but it's nice to know others do the same. i remember somebody on the forum at a banquet or something and they actually ended up sitting at the same table as their T. i can tell you, i would become so disregulated if that ever happened to me i'd probably melt down to the floor and slither out of the room and want to die. i would be interested in views from others why they think this happens. i haven't got a clue.
divadivaMember
Yes I'm not the only weird one! (I have confidence that none of y'all will take offense to that Smiler)

But in all reality, it is really weird that after all this time I still get this awkward feeling if I see T outside her office...maybe it's Gods (or universe whatever term you prefer) way of telling me Hey Divs, T is a real person who goes grocery shopping and mingles and chats with her friends too, this is a small town with a community based university theme...get over yourself...:P
kashleykashleyMember
((Diva)) Most of the time when I see her, it's very quick so we just exchange a smile or a quick hello, however there was one time that I completely avoided her, and she totally knew it! I was singing in a choir concert and greeting people at the door and in walks T. We said hey and I wish that were the end of it. But at the end there was a small reception with maybe about 30 people there in a small room, and of course T was there with her husband talking with everyone. I didn't want to try to explain anything to anyone, so I purposefully avoided her, even though we both stayed in the same room. I still feel guilty about that, although realistically, I know she probably understands.

A long time ago when I first came on here I started a thread about running into your T and a bunch of people posted their experiences as well..I'll have to find that.
divadivaMember
Hmmm a lot of interesting responses...come to think of it, the only time I didn't see freak when I saw T outside the office was when I invited her to come see me act in a school production last semester. We mingled and had a few laughs afterwards but she sent me on my merry way with my friends...I guess I didn't panic cos I actually was expecting it and we planned it...still weird though. Will it ever stop being weird? :P

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