Anyway, I feel a lot of shame and guilt over this. So much so that I feel like I absolutely have to tell her about it. Last session I told her I have OCD and I just don't think she really believes me about the Compulsive part. I told her I have obsessive thoughts about her and she was a bit surprised. So I am feeling that maybe I need to spill ALL of the beans and just tell her everything. But part of me (and it's a fairly strong and seemingly large part) is terrified that if I do, she's going to absolutely freak out and tell me to get the he** out of her office and never come back. The other part of me feels that I need to do this because if that is her reaction at least I will know that she is not the therapist to help me deal with my abandonment/attachment issues and I will be "free" to look for someone who can. It's all really terrifying though.
She has been not really focused on any one sort of therapy with me. She's a real advice giver, which sometimes I really like. She listens to me, sometimes self-discloses, but it's only stuff that is relevant to what she's working through with me at the time, and is a caring and genuine lady. She's a very motherly type and I think I need that. She has told me she doesn't want me to be too dependent on her, which makes me worry that if she understands just how much I am attached/obsessed with her, she will dump me. I think she is mostly CBT based, as she started schema therapy with me, but she also does EMDR and likely a few different things as she works with trauma victims a lot.
Anyway, someone mentioned to me in a reply to another of my posts that some of you have disclosed to your Ts that you have searched them online and that some have had positive experiences with your Ts. I guess I'm really looking for some hope and encouragement and some positive "energy" to get me psyched up enough to actually go through with this. Also, I can't decided whether to do it through a letter, or verbally. I easily get tongue-tied (or maybe tear-tied would be a better description) and my brain sort of freezes up when faced with frightening situations like this so that I don't think clearly and probably wouldn't remember even a quarter of what I need to talk to her about.
Anyway, any helpful advice or even just experiences good or bad would be appreciated. I want to know what I am really up against here, for better or worse!
Thanks!
MTF