Exactly Monte and that is probably true we get more undivided attention. No distraction, no calls, no maybe next time..Actually my former T it was hard to see him in church, but this T yes I could see wanting to go to the same church.

Thank you

Cat

Cat Thank you I think we posted at the same time. I feel better now, because I can see now that for 2 hours a week I get Ts undivided attention.

I get that a need would be to compete with Ts friends... and what if for some reason you lose the friendship? That would be scary. Even if therapy ends there is the connection.

Maybe around holidays though? When we don't have T?

Ang, did you see my post about lunch with T?

http://psychcafe.ca/eve/forums...09181/m/728005519001

Yup, I feel ya, Ang.

Oh yes I often feel I wish I could just walk into T's living room and be 'part' of her normal life. I asked T once why? She said I want to feel I belong, I want to feel I have an impact in her life.

Thank you guys, I have a session today...
not sure I can tell him yet, its only been a few months.

thanks Cat, Melba everyone

I can see it from all angles, except maybe his. I usually get myself in a caretaking position or as he says rescuer and it bugs me that I cant be that for him. 1 of the 2 relationships, I have where I can't be that! bugs me I guess...I wound up being my former bad ts rescuer..
Cat it went ok was emotional and I admitted some things in an email and added a session. I just don't know if I can tell him this, because I know I cant be.. I just don't want to hear the confirmation.